A New Home

Hey hey! You’re probably wondering wheeeere I have been all this time. I have a brand new blog now and only remembered after someone asked me why I stopped blogging that I haven’t come on here to announce it. So consider this my announcement and humble apology. I have a new internet home and it is called randomramblings.co.za. It is still the same as this one, just a new name because I struggled getting this exact one to a dot co dot za domain, but all things work together for good.

See you at my new home! :-D

Peace, love and all the good stuff!

I turned 20 a week ago… Two of the best lessons I’ve learnt!

On Saturday, 20 July, I finally kissed my teenage years goodbye and I did so with a spectacular day, night and wee-morning-hour out with a few friends. For many the prospect of growing up (actually aging) is daunting, but I’ve found that I have always welcomed it. I think for the most part this has been due to the lessons which I have learnt with each passing year. I was vain enough to think that I would do a countdown of 20 lessons I have learnt in my 20 years of life like two of my favourite ladies Janine Jellars and Nonhle Beryl, but laziness got the better of me. I do however want to share a lesson about emotions which I might have mentioned in a previous post.

No one exists entirely on their own. At one point or another (daily for most of us) we have to deal with people. As can be expected, we all come into contact with others, bearing our own problems, emotions and general bullshit. However we all have different ways of dealing with it. I have always found that my approach has been to not make my problems someone else’s, a lesson my mother taught me. Many times when you’re in a bad mood, that bad energy becomes contagious and the next person catches it and the next and the next. You end up with a bunch of people feeling down in the dumps.

We all need to be responsible for the energy we bring to others. We need to be aware of our emotions, especially if they are negative. Just because you’re going through a bad day doesn’t give you the right to ruin someone else’s. Respond to greetings with a smile. Be polite. In the same way we also need to be careful of giving the power to control our emotions to other people. Don’t let someone else have power over your emotions if they are not going to be responsible or have your best interests at heart with that power. All in all, be responsible of your energy. Be in control of your emotions.

Peace and love!

My Travel Essentials

Exams are over and everyone is going home. Most of us will have to travel long distances. I for one, have been travelling a lot yet I still can’t seem to get it right when it comes to packing and what exactly it is that one can take on the road with you. Despite this, the following items are a definite must when I am travelling, especially by road.

A jacket is top priority for me even when it is summer. Many times the person driving the vehicle that you’re traveling in will switch on the fan instead of the heater in order to avoid drowsiness. Some of the places you pass could also be experiencing temperatures way below your starting point and destination. Comfortable shoes are also an absolute must.

I carry a portable charger for the car because it relieves me of the stress of a dead battery and it relieves my mom of the agony that something has gone wrong when she gets my voicemail. If I will not be able to use the vehicle to charge my phone, I fully charge my laptop and carry a USB cable with me.

A good book or two is also a great companion when traveling. If you’re travelling in the evening, you can get those little reading lamps that you can clamp onto your book. I got mine at the Crazy Store and I’ve also seen them at many book/stationary shops like CNA and Exclusive Books.

Good music always makes the road shorter. I usually make a CD or playlist the night before. I prefer this as opposed to carrying my CD’s on the road with me and having to skip songs because they are not in sync with my holiday mood. My playlist usually features a lot of Beyoncé. I also make an extra playlist with only gospel music on it. This is standard when I am traveling with mom. I also carry headphones in case we don’t agree on what music to listen to. Trust me, they are a true peacekeeper.

I don’t eat and drink much on the road, but a bottle of water is an absolute must for me. I find that it works out much cheaper when I buy my food and drinks at my local supermarket the day before rather than buying on the road. Pack enough water to last you the entire way. Carbonated drinks will only give you a truckload of sugar that your hips wont appreciate anyway.

Of course there are many other things that one could take along, but these are absolute essentials for me. What are your absolute must-haves when traveling long distances?

A blog post a day keeps the low views at bay… It rhymes!

This is probably the umpteenth time that I am apologising for a lack of blog posts, but allow me. I’ve also promised to put an end to it umpteen times, but allow me once again. I realise every day that this blogging thing isn’t the smooth sailing that I anticipated. This is mostly due to the fact that I want to publish posts of good quality and that add value to the people who read the posts. I could easily post nonchalantly every day for the sake of having posts published, but I don’t. And I won’t.

I have been reading up on how other successful bloggers go about creating content for their blogs and I have seen quite a couple of interesting things. What stood out to me the most though, is that you can’t write in a vacuum (something Janine Jellars, editor of Seventeen magazine once told me). All the successful blogs that I visited over the course of my sabbatical were written by people who knew what they were talking about. They had above average knowledge on the topics and fields they write about and this informs their opinions.

Another observation I made was that successful blogs have a specific format. The kind that magazines do. You can almost predict the features of each and on which day they will be published. Of course this is not always the case, but I think it works well because readers know what to expect and eventually they might warm up to a specific feature which could become their favourite feature of the said blog.

Lastly, I realised that one needs to set a goal with their blog. These goals will then determine the frequency as well as quality of the posts that will be published. Once more, people want something to read, so if you want views, you will have to provide them with something to read. Preferably something of good quality. This is my blogger dream.

So this week, in-between studying for my exams and during the June holidays, I will be reading up on the various topics that I talk about and will add even more. I don’t want to write about things I know nothing of. I will also be coming up with a schedule and features that will serve as my guideline to what I post and when I post it. I sincerely hope this will work out.

Do you blog? What are your blogger problems? What are some of your favourite topics and which blogs do you love reading?

Who Is Luke James?

Don’t worry. I also didn’t know when I read that he would be the opening act for Beyoncé’s Mrs Carter Show World Tour. A quick Google search taught me that Luke James ( @whoislukejames) is a 28 year old R&B singer and songwriter. I also learned that he has sung back-up for Tyrese and has written songs for Chris Brown, Britney Spears, Keri Hilson and Justin Bieber. What Google didn’t have to teach me however, is how good of a singer he is! Check out these videos that I found on YouTube of this talented singer (who is quite the looker too). I really hope that Beyoncé intends on bringing her tour to South Africa. I would love to see Luke live.

First up is “I Want You” which is my absolute favourite. This song earned him a Grammy nomination for Best R&B Performance in 2013. His falsetto could put even the likes of Usher and Justin Timberlake to shame!

 

Luke James–I Want You

Next up is “I.O.U.” where he basically talks about how lucky he is to have his lover and how grateful he is for everything that she has done for him. I love the fact that his love interest in the video has a bald head. Don’t ask me why though. I just love it. Beautiful!

 

Luke James–I.O.U.

Lastly we have “Make Love To Me” in which I was quite surprised to see Kelly Rowland making a cameo. What I love about the video is that it has a late 90’s early 2000 feel to it that we don’t really get to see in music video’s these days. His vocals on the song are on point as with the previous two songs.

 

Luke James–Make Love To Me

If you’re still not sold, he can back it up live. A feat not many artists can boast. This is a fan video from the European leg of the Mrs Carter Show World Tour. If you’re not sold, you need an intervention.

Luke James live at the Mrs Carter Show World Tour

Download his mixtape entitled “Whispers In The Dark” HERE.

Please come to South Africa, Luke James!

What Dr Phil said…

In a video I shared a few weeks ago, Dr Phil says that the golden rule “do unto others as you would want done unto you” is one sided in the sense that it is only what we can do, but it is not what we should automatically expect from others. I’ve found this to be entirely true each time I have had to deal with someone who has treated me the complete opposite to how I have treated them. When you are nice to people, you expect them to be nice to you in return. Unfortunately that is not how things work. We can not control how others treat us. So what does one do?

If you have tried to change how someone treats you, but have had no luck, you need to start determining exactly what kind of treatment you will accept from certain people. Understanding what you can change and what you can’t is the key to solving this problem. If you want friends that respect you, don’t upgrade people who don’t respect you to the level of friends. Instead go as far as reducing those who don’t respect you to the level of being a pal. This way your expectations on the kind of treatment you get from those you call your friends is almost guaranteed.

This is just one lesson that I have learnt last week while I am trying to take back ownership of my life without being too much of a control freak. So I have since altered the golden rule to “do unto others what you would want done unto you, but don’t always expect it.”

Here’s that video again…

 

Why Dr Phil Wants You To Be Your Own Best Friend

What Dr Phil said…

In a video I shared a few weeks ago, Dr Phil says that the golden rule “do unto others as you would want done unto you” is one sided in the sense that it is only what we can do, but it is not what we should automatically expect from others. I’ve found this to be entirely true each time I have had to deal with someone who has treated me the complete opposite to how I have treated them. When you are nice to people, you expect them to be nice to you in return. Unfortunately that is not how things work. We can not control how others treat us. So what does one do?

If you have tried to change how someone treats you, but have had no luck, you need to start determining exactly what kind of treatment you will accept from certain people. Understanding what you can change and what you can’t is the key to solving this problem. If you want friends that respect you, don’t upgrade people who don’t respect you to the level of friends. Instead go as far as reducing those who don’t respect you to the level of being a pal. This way your expectations on the kind of treatment you get from those you call your friends is almost guaranteed.

This is just one lesson that I have learnt last week while I am trying to take back ownership of my life without being too much of a control freak. So I have since altered the golden rule to “do unto others what you would want done unto you, but don’t always expect it.”

Here’s that video again…

 

Why Dr Phil Wants You To Be Your Own Best Friend